It is so exciting preparing for a new baby. Whether this is number 2 or 5; every baby is such a blessing. The family dynamics change with each new baby. Let your child know you are expecting, so as the watch your belly grow they can talk to the baby and be a part of the exciting adventure with you. Starting at this point you can let them know they are going to be the big brother/sister and this is going to be their baby sister/brother. I think the most important thing with children is to make sure each child feels special as the new baby arrives. So I buy gifts for each child for the first 5 days. These gifts can be paper and crayons, to a journal, small game, or action figures, or candy. The gifts don’t have to be expensive just something special for the big sister or brother. Now let me explain how I do the gifts; I secretly buy the gifts about a month before the baby is born and wrap them in bags and label them day #1, day #2 and so on. I pack the ones for the days I’m in the hospital. Then after the baby is born while holding the baby I give the kids a gift and tell them it is from the baby; “Little sister wants give this to you”. I can tell you my 13 year old daughter knew the gift was bought by me but it was still extremely special to her.
Let me start by saying I don’t go many places without my kids, especially in the evenings. So when I do go out; the next day my kids are extra clingy.So the nights I am not home to tuck them into bed I remind them tomorrow night is ours.Then the following night I make sure to set aside at least 1 hour for extra cuddle time, book reading or just talking. I have found this to be helpful for my hubby or older daughters who tuck the little ones in on the night I am away. It also helps with the frustration my kids have with me that I was not there.