A New Sibling

It is so exciting preparing for a new baby.  Whether this is number 2 or 5; every baby is such a blessing.  The family dynamics change with each new baby.  Let your child know you are expecting, so as the watch your belly grow they can talk to the baby and be a part of the exciting adventure with you.  Starting at this point you can let them know they are going to be the big brother/sister and this is going to be their baby sister/brother.  I think the most important thing with children is to make sure each child feels special as the new baby arrives.  So I buy gifts for each child for the first 5 days.  These gifts can be paper and crayons, to a journal, small game, or action figures, or candy.  The gifts don’t have to be expensive just something special for the big sister or brother.  Now let me explain how I do the gifts; I secretly buy the gifts about a month before the baby is born and wrap them in bags and label them day #1, day #2 and so on.  I pack the ones for the days I’m in the hospital.  Then after the baby is born while holding the baby I give the kids a gift and tell them it is from the baby; “Little sister wants give this to you”.  I can tell you my 13 year old daughter knew the gift was bought by me but it was still extremely special to her.  

Special Time With Kids

   
      Let me start by saying I don’t go many places without my kids, especially in the evenings.  So when I do go out; the next day my kids are extra clingy.So the nights I am not home to tuck them into bed I remind them tomorrow night is ours.Then the following night I make sure to set aside at least 1 hour for extra cuddle time, book reading or just talking.  I have found this to be helpful for my hubby or older daughters who tuck the little ones in on the night I am away.  It also helps with the frustration my kids have with me that I was not there.

Baby essentials

So you’re expecting!  This is an exciting and nerve racking time.  I like to be prepared for all situations.  Babies are so unpredictable they like to share their leftover “burps” on us, along with the exploding up the back of the diaper.  Shouldn’t every mommy get the opportunity to do a full baby wardrobe change while out in public?  Anyways I have created a list of items I think are essential for a mommy to have. 

BABY NEEDS

HOME

DIAPER BAG

aspirator

1

1

baby q-tips

   

baggies for diaper bag

 

1

bath wash

2

small one

bibs

6-8

1

boppy

   

bottle warmer(car)

   

bottles

6-1O

 

bounce seat

   

breast pads

1 box

 

breast pump

   

brush/comb

1

1

burp clothes

12-14

1

car seat

   

changing table

   

crib

   

crib set

   

diaper bag

   

diaper pail

   

diapers

2 packs

7 each day

exersaucer

   

formula container

 

1

front pack

   

gowns

1O

 

hand sanitizer

1 large

1 small

hats

10-12

1

head supports

   

high chair

   

humidifier

   

lap pads

3-4

1

long sleeve onesies

10

 

lotion

2

small one

milk baggies

breast milk storage

mittens

4

 

monitor

   

nail clippers

1

1

nursing shield

   

ointment

1

1

onesies

10-14

2

outfits

10-14

1-2

pacifier clips

4

1

pacifiers

5

1

pjs

1O

1

port-a-crib

   

powder

1

small one

receiving blankets

7-10

1

sheets

2-4

 

sleepers

7

 

socks

12

2

spoons

   

stroller

   

swing

   

thermometer

1

1

thick blankets

4

 

towel

5-7

 

travel bowls

   

Tylenol

1 (after 1st shots)

1

union suits

O7

 

wash cloths

1O

1

wedge for crib

   

wipes

2 containers

1 travel

Love in discipline

Whether it has been a time-out, spanking, or other form of discipline; this is definitely not the best part of parenting.  The key is to follow up with your kiddo after the discipline to let them know you don’t like the choices they have made but you still like them.  I always talk about why they got in trouble and what they can do differently.  Then I tell them I love them and give them a hug.

5 hugs a day

So in our family we believe physical touch is vital to survive.  I challenge my kids to give and get 5 hugs a day; with 5 kids it is pretty easy for them to get their hugs each day.  I personally love hugs so I hugs my kids each morning, when they get home from school and before they go to bed each night, and anytime I need or want a hug.  It is so cool now my oldest son will say “you need a hug”  I think he needs it as bad as I do. When I am helping the kids with their homework I will rub their back, massage their shoulder, rub my boys heads or play with my girls hair.  We as humans thrive when we have physical contact with each other!

Teenagers and preteens

As my teenager stormed off to her bedroom I had a choice to make.  1. I could chalk it up to “normal” teenager behavior, or 2. I could compose myself and follow her.  Well I personally don’t enjoy the “normal” teenager attitude so I followed her to her bedroom, took a seat on her bed and asked her what she was feeling, the reply I got was “I don’t know”.  Well that is not an answer to me so I told her I would sit with her until she could tell me what she was feeling; mad, sad, angry, hurt.  I know this takes work as a parent, the thing is if we as parents can help our children express their feelings; we open up communication in the small things and that makes it easier for them to talk about the big things with us.  I use this system with each one of my kids, letting them know their feelings are real and o.k. to feel and talk about.  I believe if we connect emotionally with our kids we will have stronger relationships with them.

Hard part of parenting

Proverbs 13:24

He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.

I personally do not enjoy spanking my children, many times I have cried right along side of them after I have had to spank them or do a hold therapy with them. I know by disciplining my children when they are young will be helpful in the future.  My children have a respect for authority.  I always say I would rather spank and discipline my young children than to leave it to the cops when they get older.